There has been a lot of discussion in the media about the Oscars this year. Most people would agree that this year was much more entertaining than in years past, largely due to Ellen Degeneres’ unconventional approach to hosting such a formal event. There is something to be learned from the stark difference in the way that Ellen approached the Oscars than most of the hosts in years past. Hosting the Oscars must be really stressful. You’re basically the person in charge of keeping an entire room of the world’s biggest celebrities engaged through a pretty long ceremony, as well as billions of people watching from different countries around the world. Not everyone has the comedic skills of Ellen Degeneres, but there is something that can be learned from her way of approaching a stressful situation.
1. Be yourself. If you are put in a position of power, or have a lot of pressures in your life, it is always important to maintain a sense of authenticity. Don’t lose sight of who you are in stressful times. Not everyone can pull off dressing like a ridiculous fairy with puffy sleeves in front of a billion people, but people can always tell if you’re comfortable in your own skin. You are who you are, and don’t be afraid to own it! In the wise words of Dr. Seuss, “‘Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you.” Whether it be leading a staff meeting, meeting with your boss or helping a coworker, don’t try to be someone you aren’t. Being comfortable in your own skin sends the message that you value yourself, and other people should value you, too.
2. Don’t be afraid to think outside the box. It goes without saying that Ellen stepped outside of the conventional box at this year’s Oscars… she was giving out pizza to women who were wearing million dollar outfits. Now, in the life of an everyday person, that might be too outside the box. However, don’t be afraid to spice things up and think about different ways of engaging people. The same old routine can get stale and predictable. Maybe trying a new idea will put other new ideas in motion! Different things work for different people, and keeping things fresh will ease tension and stress.
3. Laugher is the best medicine. One of the best ways to ease tension and stress is through humor. There is always beauty in a breakdown, and ways to find silver linings in stressful situations. If you’re stressed, others around you might be, too. Finding the humor in a stressful situation can be a great icebreaker. With that being said, it is important to be mindful of your audience and what is appropriate. Not everyone can get away with Ellen’s antics, and teasing Liza Minelli about being a fantastic impersonator of herself. But, finding humor and laughing with others rather than at others can be a powerful tool. Also, don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself! Everyone is human, and no one is perfect. Being able to recognize, own and laugh at some of your own behaviors is a great way to demonstrate that you’re made of tough stuff and can handle difficult things that come your way.
4. Never give up. Ellen Degeneres is a perfect image of resiliency. In the 90s when Ellen came out as a lesbian, it was highly controversial. She overcame significant adversity in the face of rejection in the entertainment industry. Through Ellen’s talent and persistence, she went from being rejected in Hollywood to hosting one of the best Oscar’s ceremonies many people have ever watched. Life can be unpredictable and sometimes things can seem bleak, but never give up. Hard work, believing in yourself and dedication to what you love pays off. Hard times help you appreciate the good, and rejection and adversity can lead to other great opportunities.
Written By: Jessica Garcia