Recently, I reconnected with a good friend. Now, to preface this we were not estranged by an unsettled argument or any other kind of slighting, disagreement, etc. Instead, we had just drifted apart.
The event that contributed the most to our waning contact over the years: Life. Feeling like there is not enough time in the day or you just can’t seem to use the time you have efficiently. It’s easy to let things go, and friendships can be one of those things.
We are human beings and our civilization has only achieved what is has because we have the ability to work together. We are relational beings; our survival depends on it! The ability and desire to connect is hardwired in us, but many factors affect how this is expressed. Feeling connected activates the release of chemicals (e.g. endorphins) in the brain and positively interacting with someone is a benefit to your mental health.
Reconnecting with my friend has been great! Chatting about life and laughing at our old idiosyncratic references and jokes has been a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise hectic time. My challenge for you is to do the same, reconnect with someone close to you, who hasn’t felt as close as you would like. It will take up less time than you think, and can make all the difference for you.
Give it a try…